I worked until the husband and me had our first baby and then I became a stay home Mum, which I absolutely love. Yes, that's right, I said I love it! I've met a few people recently who have literally stared at me in horror when I told them what I do, but to be honest, I'm old enough now that I don't really give a hoot. "What do you do all day?" "Don't you get bored?" "I couldn't stay home all day, I'd go crazy!" are just a few gems that some people have said to me in the past and so inspired me to write this post.
First of all, I don't think I've ever actually spent all day at home. Even when the kiddos were babies, we always had the dog to walk, playdates to go on, exploring to do (because we usually moved every couple of years and were either living someplace cool or brand new), or even just going to the gym where I got my sweat on and caught up with friends while the kiddos played in the gym daycare. You get the picture, we didn't stay home too much. Did I miss working at first? I missed the 'crack' sometimes I guess, but my day was still filled with schedules (of sorts), routines and lots of laughs with the kids and my friends. It was fun and I can assure you, I was never bored. Sure, there's always the mindless chores like laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, doctor appointments and errands to run, but if I worked, I'd still have to do those things - which in reality, are part of everyday life anyway. Was it always rainbows and unicorns? Of course not, but the majority of time, everything was great!
Obviously things have changed as the kids have grown older and started school. I won't bore you with the details, but my day starts at 5am. I choose to get out of bed way earlier than the kids so I can check my Facebook, emails etc, have a quiet breakfast and maybe go for a run if the husband is home, before it's time to wake them up to get ready for school. Every day is different, but I'm usually on the go most of the time before, during and after school. I still get up at 5am when the children are on vacation so that I can do the same. I do understand that not everyone is able to stay home so I feel very lucky that I am able to do so.
Therefore, I really don't understand why some people automatically assume what kind of person I am because I stay home. I'm not a mindless Stepford Wife with a perfectly clean home, perfectly clean children, preparing delicious meals all day. Nor am I a mindless sofa bison, staying in bed as long as possible every day getting out of bed only to watch TV and eat junk food. I'm just a normal Mum. Everybody is different and everybody does what is best for themselves and their family. I totally understand why some people would hate my way of life, but why criticize me for the choices that the husband and me have made for me to stay home? Live and let live people! I admire working Mums, for they truly do have to fit a whole lot more into their days, but I certainly don't judge them or think they're doing the wrong thing - because it's their choice, just as staying home is mine!
Do I want your pity or your admiration? Hell no! What I'm really trying to say, is that in my opinion, there should be no competition or even debate about stay home vs working Mums. At the end of the day, we are all just parents who love our children, doing what we think is best for our families. No family is the same so why should we all do the same thing, or judge when people do things differently from us?
I shall leave you now, because it is surely time for me to go and enjoy a bonbon on the sofa while watching my favorite soap opera...HA!